Interesting parallels between sex and creativity

The following article lists some simple, informative tips that will help you have a better experience with sex and creativity.

It’s all about surrender. The more you can get out of your head, and simply let go, the further into your process you will go. And the grander the result will be.

The real communication is entirely beyond words. When an actor gets up to deliver a monologue, or a poet composes a sonnet, the words take you only half the way there. The rest happens between the lines, in the emotional truth with which it’s delivered. Same with sex. And without that emotional truth… well, it’s all a lot of hooey.

The spiritual usually comes into play. My belief is that all of this gets handed to us on that big Universal platter. And your choice is to accept or decline. So truly authentic creative or sexual endeavors can’t help having a mystical or divine underlayer.

You can’t do it unless you really, truly want to. OK, sure. You can fake your way into bed with a relative stranger, or stumble along writing a book you don’t care about. But you’re not going to sustain it. The sex will be cheap and easy; the manuscript will sputter and die. Why? Because you don’t really, truly want to be there.

Both require bravery. Deep connections make us passionate lovers, and fearless communicators. We act from our most vulnerable spot; the little piece of ourselves that’s most hidden and protected, yet full of the greatest power and truth.

Lust makes you stupid. But love makes you wise. I saw this little quote on a therapist’s bulletin board, and it is so very true. When it comes to creating, the lust for glory and fame makes us do silly, inauthentic things we later regret. It’s the same with lust for inappropriate people. On the other hand, when we get it right – boy, is it right! Authentic relationships and creative endeavors are fine, powerful teachers who leave us much wiser, and much stronger.

You’re not going to be satisfied until it’s over. Not pursuing that book, or business, or creative project that keeps bugging you is like walking away from sex mid-act. Beginning may be awkward; you may feel shy and vulnerable. But once you get going, the passion to continue takes hold and you simply cannot stop until you are complete. (On the other hand, you can
walk away easily from half-baked acts of love or creative projects. That’s how you know when it’s the real thing.)

The more you give, the more you get. You’re not going to have a knock-out painting exhibition if you hold back with the brush. Nor are you going to get Lover of the Year if you lay back and simply wait to receive. Both require energy and the desire to give.

Both make you feel much more alive. Enough said. At their best, both are all wrapped up with love. Both sex and creating require the generous, uninhibited sharing of your heart. And the more you can open your heart and let the floodgates open on your soul, the more profound will be your experience.And your impact.

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