To learn more about how much (or how little) you think you deserve, here are a few questions to answer. (Scoring is at the bottom of this section.)
1. When offered a sumptuous dessert after a great meal in your honor, you
a) insist you’re full, even if you’re not. (All the while watching everyone else eat it, wishing you’d said yes.)
b) sit in tortured indecision about the dessert, until you finally pass it up because that’s what everyone else is doing. (Later, you think about it with a pang.)
c) decide the diet can go just this once and dig in, gratefully, knowing you can work off the calories with extra exercise tomorrow.
d) automatically decide that since you never eat dessert (even though you love it), you’ll miss this one, too.
2. You tend to earn
a) just enough money to eke out a living, though you do rack up regular credit card debt
b) more money than you need … but you spend more than you should, so you end up with little at month’s end
c) adequate money for your needs, savings, investments, etc.
d) less than you’d like, but not dramatically so. At least some savings programs, etc. are in place
3. When it comes to finishing your creative projects, you tend to
a) work on them endlessly without the satisfaction of completion. (Darn things are never quite good enough.)
b) throw away or drop most every project you start. (Whom are you kidding, anyway?)
c) push through to the bitter end, even when the going is tough. You’ve even mustered up the courage to submit some of your work to professional venues.
d) always back off near the end, leaving the work hanging, unfinished. But you WILL get to it someday. Hopefully.
4. Your friends tend to be
a) few and far between. (Nobody really understands you.)
b) a competitive bunch with whom you’re afraid to share your most vulnerable feelings, dreams, etc. (You’d never ask them for support!)
c) honest to God allies full of support for your creative dreams and projects. You feel blessed.
d) divided between those who are critical and those who are soundly in your corner. Sometimes it seems the nay sayers win out.
5. When it comes to your dreams in life, your spouse or partner is usually
a) annoyed most of the time, so you don’t mention them much
b) closed mouth, but not vocally protesting all the time, either
c) squarely in your corner, taking actions that actively support your dream
d) worried you’re going to ‘take the leap’ and change your life so radically they can’t keep up or adjust. But you haven’t really talked about it with them in earnest.
6. Your day job or main source of income is
a) best described as toxic … and there appears to be no way out
b) barely tolerable, but at least provides some pretty good money
c) a workable fit for your dreams right now, though it may change in the future
d) something you really have to change, but not until you’re ready which isn’t quite yet
Scoring:
If you answered mostly a) or b), you’re probably putting up with a whole lot of ‘tolerations’ as the late coaching guru Thomas Leonard put it. Perhaps it’s time to redesign your life to really put some commitment into living your dream.
If you answered mostly c) you’ve already decided you deserve a lot and have set up your life accordingly. Good for you!
If you answered mostly d), you’re on your way to a sense of deserving more, but still need to work on it.
Wherever you fall on the spectrum, believe it when we tell you …. You ARE
worth it!
Monday, November 26, 2007
Friday, November 23, 2007
Avoid Creative Anorexia
Imagine the next time you join a discussion about Anorexia. When you start sharing the fascinating Anorexia facts below, your friends will be absolutely amazed.
Do you really believe you can have what you want? Or do you tend to operate with your feet in two camps one that says, 'I'm going out there and pursue my dream' and another that says, 'I'll also hedge my bets by doing something I don't love that much, just in case the dream thing doesn't work out.' This is what Persephone Zill, a coach I’ve worked with, would call "indirectness" and I’m here to say that it doesn't work.
I've spent a lot of time in life hedging my bets under the mistaken illusion that this is mature, business like behavior. The real irony is that seldom have these supposedly businesslike ideas ever produced income or other results that I thought for sure they would. The urge to hedge your bets often runs contrary to everything your gut instincts scream at you to do. For instance, say you want to be a teacher. Your instinct says 'Quit the job! Go get licensed! Be a teacher kids never forget!"
Meanwhile, you hedge your bets by dedicating most of your energy to work that doesn't feed your soul, and taking a course here and there that never really moves you any closer to the dream. You justify your lack of action by insisting you can't afford to quit or alter your job, or deciding you don't want to change your lifestyle and live on a teacher's salary. And yet ... what do you want?
So far, we've uncovered some interesting facts about Anorexia. You may decide that the following information is even more interesting.
Do you want the excuses, or do you want the results? Do you want a life that's halfway, but never all the way, to the dream? For a lot of us, the excuses, and the half-baked life are all we think we deserve. We don't focus on getting what we want because somewhere along the way, we decided we don't deserve that much happiness and fulfillment. I trace my own inclination to think that way back to a pivotal lunch with my mother back in my senior year in high school, when she asked me what I wanted to do with my life. As I was about to answer, 'Be a singer or a writer,' she pointed a finger at me and announced triumphantly, 'Communications! You're going to be GREAT in communications!" Whereupon I promptly burst into tears, and went on to spend 18 years in advertising, 'communicating' and hating myself all the while.
Seeds get planted that should not have been allowed to grow; ideas get listened to that should have been ignored. We cast about looking for anyone else but ourselves to give us direction and yet, WE are the only ones who can give us the permission to really, truly, honestly create what we want in life. We can do what we want, but only if we are brave enough to seize the initiative even if it means not listening to Mom and going it alone. The urge not to provide ourselves with what we need in life is a sort of creative anorexia, deprivation that is all about a distorted picture of who we are and what we deserve. The real irony is that seldom do the contingency plans and hedged bets work out. During my entire career in advertising I never made half the salary that my other, more eager coworkers made. The simple fact was that I didn't want to be there, nor should I have been. Consequently, I couldn’t produce the results that were expected of me.
Perhaps the road to what you want won't be fast, easy or lined with gold, but it will be one hundred percent honest. And that provides riches you can't even begin to count. So get out there, make a transitional plan you can stick to, and begin to do what you want. I'm here to say that you do, indeed, deserve it.
Now you can understand why there's a growing interest in Anorexia. When people start looking for more information about Anorexia, you'll be in a position to meet their needs.
Do you really believe you can have what you want? Or do you tend to operate with your feet in two camps one that says, 'I'm going out there and pursue my dream' and another that says, 'I'll also hedge my bets by doing something I don't love that much, just in case the dream thing doesn't work out.' This is what Persephone Zill, a coach I’ve worked with, would call "indirectness" and I’m here to say that it doesn't work.
I've spent a lot of time in life hedging my bets under the mistaken illusion that this is mature, business like behavior. The real irony is that seldom have these supposedly businesslike ideas ever produced income or other results that I thought for sure they would. The urge to hedge your bets often runs contrary to everything your gut instincts scream at you to do. For instance, say you want to be a teacher. Your instinct says 'Quit the job! Go get licensed! Be a teacher kids never forget!"
Meanwhile, you hedge your bets by dedicating most of your energy to work that doesn't feed your soul, and taking a course here and there that never really moves you any closer to the dream. You justify your lack of action by insisting you can't afford to quit or alter your job, or deciding you don't want to change your lifestyle and live on a teacher's salary. And yet ... what do you want?
So far, we've uncovered some interesting facts about Anorexia. You may decide that the following information is even more interesting.
Do you want the excuses, or do you want the results? Do you want a life that's halfway, but never all the way, to the dream? For a lot of us, the excuses, and the half-baked life are all we think we deserve. We don't focus on getting what we want because somewhere along the way, we decided we don't deserve that much happiness and fulfillment. I trace my own inclination to think that way back to a pivotal lunch with my mother back in my senior year in high school, when she asked me what I wanted to do with my life. As I was about to answer, 'Be a singer or a writer,' she pointed a finger at me and announced triumphantly, 'Communications! You're going to be GREAT in communications!" Whereupon I promptly burst into tears, and went on to spend 18 years in advertising, 'communicating' and hating myself all the while.
Seeds get planted that should not have been allowed to grow; ideas get listened to that should have been ignored. We cast about looking for anyone else but ourselves to give us direction and yet, WE are the only ones who can give us the permission to really, truly, honestly create what we want in life. We can do what we want, but only if we are brave enough to seize the initiative even if it means not listening to Mom and going it alone. The urge not to provide ourselves with what we need in life is a sort of creative anorexia, deprivation that is all about a distorted picture of who we are and what we deserve. The real irony is that seldom do the contingency plans and hedged bets work out. During my entire career in advertising I never made half the salary that my other, more eager coworkers made. The simple fact was that I didn't want to be there, nor should I have been. Consequently, I couldn’t produce the results that were expected of me.
Perhaps the road to what you want won't be fast, easy or lined with gold, but it will be one hundred percent honest. And that provides riches you can't even begin to count. So get out there, make a transitional plan you can stick to, and begin to do what you want. I'm here to say that you do, indeed, deserve it.
Now you can understand why there's a growing interest in Anorexia. When people start looking for more information about Anorexia, you'll be in a position to meet their needs.
A Great Way to Cut Expenses
Imagine the next time you join a discussion about cut expenses. When you start sharing the fascinating cut expenses facts below, your friends will be absolutely amazed.
One of the biggest challenges creative dreamers face when it’s time to make their dream their livelihood is regulating cash flow. Typically we have lots of new business expenses, without enough income to meet them. One easy solution is to spend less something many of us in the US, at least, find hard to do. And yet, it must be done. If that’s you, read on; I think I’ve stumbled upon a great solution.
Recently, I decided to tighten my belt and start spending carefully for a change. Which for a relaxed, what the heck spender like myself was the equivalent to going into the desert for 40 days and 40 nights. In the past, such measures always dissolved in a puddle of good intentions. Even though I knew this was important and good to do… I just couldn’t stick with the program. But this time, I’ve found a trick that works.
The first month, I simply tracked my expenses on two file cards in my wallet (one for business, one for personal.) Then last month, I paid my regular bills by check as usual. I also determined just how much cash I needed to live on each week, based on my previous tracking, and withdrew such from the bank on an appointed, regular day: Wednesday. I also parked my credit card and my debit card in my desk drawer, so they’d be out of circulation. Then I carefully monitored as I spent.
As the month wore on, the cash ebbed and flowed. Some weeks I spent less than my weekly sum; some weeks I spent more. And now, at month’s end, I found I actually kept to my budget quite well – and can donate the rest towards savings and my business. The reason this works, I think, is because parking the plastic and paying cash is radical. Initially, I was pretty sure it wouldn’t work. (“What about emergencies? What about last minute things for the kids? What about … impulse buys??”) But I was so sick of financial ambiguity and sloppy spending that I did it anyway. And I was amazed.
I trust that what you've read so far has been informative. The following section should go a long way toward clearing up any uncertainty that may remain.
The physical act of paying cash really does govern what you spend. When you have to pay $120 for groceries, you start thinking about whether you really need that extra large bag of premium potato chips, or the case of designer water. When you have to pay cash for the dentist (two fillings: $220) it occurs to you that you can actually shop for a dentist. Paying cash has a wonderful way of keeping you honest. And it makes you super conscious of details which previously might have left you cold. Last month I found myself not buying things which in the past had been bought without a second thought. This was power saving!
Paying cash is a great way to save money, which helps you meet financial goals like paying down a big credit card balance, or establishing a six month emergency savings fund to help you leave your non-dream day job. (Both steps I recommend taking in my new book, Living Your Joy.) At month’s end I feel empowered, and gung-ho for another month of cash only adventures. One final note: my 9 and 13 year old children who’ve traditionally hit me for snacks, toys, and endless pairs of skin tight jeans (yes, I am the ‘soft’ parent) have stopped expecting handouts. And I’m proud to say, they’ve started working on their own ways to earn and save money. So there is a marvelous trickle down effect.
All this financial freedom takes is some commitment on your part, and the willingness to try doing things differently as an experiment, or even a game. Try it, and you may find your dream gets funded a lot more quickly and easily.
PS. Don’t forget: unless you finance your dream adequately, you can’t reach the people you’re here to reach. That’s the power of your financial decisions.
Is there really any information about cut expenses that is nonessential? We all see things from different angles, so something relatively insignificant to one may be crucial to another.
One of the biggest challenges creative dreamers face when it’s time to make their dream their livelihood is regulating cash flow. Typically we have lots of new business expenses, without enough income to meet them. One easy solution is to spend less something many of us in the US, at least, find hard to do. And yet, it must be done. If that’s you, read on; I think I’ve stumbled upon a great solution.
Recently, I decided to tighten my belt and start spending carefully for a change. Which for a relaxed, what the heck spender like myself was the equivalent to going into the desert for 40 days and 40 nights. In the past, such measures always dissolved in a puddle of good intentions. Even though I knew this was important and good to do… I just couldn’t stick with the program. But this time, I’ve found a trick that works.
The first month, I simply tracked my expenses on two file cards in my wallet (one for business, one for personal.) Then last month, I paid my regular bills by check as usual. I also determined just how much cash I needed to live on each week, based on my previous tracking, and withdrew such from the bank on an appointed, regular day: Wednesday. I also parked my credit card and my debit card in my desk drawer, so they’d be out of circulation. Then I carefully monitored as I spent.
As the month wore on, the cash ebbed and flowed. Some weeks I spent less than my weekly sum; some weeks I spent more. And now, at month’s end, I found I actually kept to my budget quite well – and can donate the rest towards savings and my business. The reason this works, I think, is because parking the plastic and paying cash is radical. Initially, I was pretty sure it wouldn’t work. (“What about emergencies? What about last minute things for the kids? What about … impulse buys??”) But I was so sick of financial ambiguity and sloppy spending that I did it anyway. And I was amazed.
I trust that what you've read so far has been informative. The following section should go a long way toward clearing up any uncertainty that may remain.
The physical act of paying cash really does govern what you spend. When you have to pay $120 for groceries, you start thinking about whether you really need that extra large bag of premium potato chips, or the case of designer water. When you have to pay cash for the dentist (two fillings: $220) it occurs to you that you can actually shop for a dentist. Paying cash has a wonderful way of keeping you honest. And it makes you super conscious of details which previously might have left you cold. Last month I found myself not buying things which in the past had been bought without a second thought. This was power saving!
Paying cash is a great way to save money, which helps you meet financial goals like paying down a big credit card balance, or establishing a six month emergency savings fund to help you leave your non-dream day job. (Both steps I recommend taking in my new book, Living Your Joy.) At month’s end I feel empowered, and gung-ho for another month of cash only adventures. One final note: my 9 and 13 year old children who’ve traditionally hit me for snacks, toys, and endless pairs of skin tight jeans (yes, I am the ‘soft’ parent) have stopped expecting handouts. And I’m proud to say, they’ve started working on their own ways to earn and save money. So there is a marvelous trickle down effect.
All this financial freedom takes is some commitment on your part, and the willingness to try doing things differently as an experiment, or even a game. Try it, and you may find your dream gets funded a lot more quickly and easily.
PS. Don’t forget: unless you finance your dream adequately, you can’t reach the people you’re here to reach. That’s the power of your financial decisions.
Is there really any information about cut expenses that is nonessential? We all see things from different angles, so something relatively insignificant to one may be crucial to another.
TRY THIS: HANDS-ON EFT
Want to experience the power of the emotional freedom techniques for
yourself? A fellow named Gary Craig, who put this technology together, has an
excellent, resource-crammed site, with lots of free articles and reasonably-priced
trainings, videos, etc.
http://www.emofree.com/
There is an even more concise, easy to work with technique, which is
similar to EFT, called BSFF (Be Set Free Fast) at Joan Sotkin’s Prosperity Place
website. I’ve tried both, and I like this one just a little bit better. Joan’s website
also has a free sample to try from her home page at
http://www.prosperityplace.com
yourself? A fellow named Gary Craig, who put this technology together, has an
excellent, resource-crammed site, with lots of free articles and reasonably-priced
trainings, videos, etc.
http://www.emofree.com/
There is an even more concise, easy to work with technique, which is
similar to EFT, called BSFF (Be Set Free Fast) at Joan Sotkin’s Prosperity Place
website. I’ve tried both, and I like this one just a little bit better. Joan’s website
also has a free sample to try from her home page at
http://www.prosperityplace.com
Thursday, November 22, 2007
How to Manage Rejection
Do you ever feel like you know just enough about manage rejection to be dangerous? Let's see if we can fill in some of the gaps with the latest info from manage rejection experts.
I stumble upon this interesting article by Suzanne Falter-Barns. And it goes like this.....
Every summer I indulge a particular passion of mine: appearing in a musical with our local community theater group. There is an entire pack of us women over-forty-who-must-act (we call ourselves the ‘elder-babes’,) and these shows are one of the high points of our year. This season’s production is going to be no exception: we are doing “Chicago”.
Now let me just say … I’m no dancer. Despite years of dance training in my youth, I tend to get up there and go left when everyone else is going right. No problem, I naively figured. I’d been taking jazz dance classes for an entire year, so how tough was this going to be? I blithely pulled on the fishnets and trotted off to the dance auditions.
Four hours later, I crawled home, assuming the worst. The routines had gone on for hours, every one of them mind numbingly complex. Somehow, an entire legion of great dancers materialized out of nowhere, and whipped through each combination flawlessly. Meanwhile, I hid at the back behind my friend Leslie, a former Broadway hoofer, and tried feebly to follow along.
Call backs were the following weekend, and the ensuing week was pure, unadulterated hell. I violated every last rule I’ve spent all these years preaching about: I assumed I wouldn’t be cast and whined ceaselessly to my husband about it. Then I angrily decided I would rise up and quit the audition process then and there. (After all, if I couldn’t dance, what use could I possibly be to this @*%&$(%! show?) Eventually, I calmed down a bit, but only because my thirteen years old daughter told me to get a grip.
The information about manage rejection presented here will do one of two things: either it will reinforce what you know about manage rejection or it will teach you something new. Both are good outcomes.
I was, in fact, wrestling in the trenches with that old, familiar beast, Rejection. And at this point, Rejection was definitely winning. Its dark little mutterings were on pretty much 24/7, and it did its best to whip me down to the emotional size I was back at about … oh, maybe age twelve. I was called back for one of the few non-dance roles in the show, and found myself fumbling through these auditions, too. I couldn’t hit the very low notes the song required; my acting seemed lifeless and forced to me. I went home with tears in my eyes, convinced that this would be the first summer I wouldn’t make it on stage.
The Rejection demons really moved in for the kill at that point. For the next two days, I dissolved into tears at the drop of the hat. I kept imagining all the great times the cast would be having without me. I buried myself deeper and deeper in self-pity. It was as if I couldn’t turn off the ceaseless drone of my damning mind, no matter what I did. Finally, in a single moment of clarity, I turned to self help.
I did the emotional freedom technique, which combines eye movements, and tapping on certain key meridian points in the body with affirming thoughts and sentences. I’d known of the technique, but had never done it before; still the time for it was obviously right. As I did the EFT process, I felt a curious calm descend over me. “This is … weird,” I told myself as I tapped below my eye, and on my chin. How could a little tapping undo an entire lifetime of vulnerability, humiliation, shame, and deep inner torment!?
When I completed the entire process twice, I became aware that I was suddenly ‘okay’ with the entire audition situation. It just plain seemed okay if I didn’t get cast. I started thinking about selling tickets each night with Bonnie, our fun ticket chair, or maybe just sitting in the audience for a change. I started imagining a summer where I had plenty of time to laze around with the kids, or go on long boat rides with my husband. I started remembering how relaxed summer could actually be.
When I woke up the next day, the mood miraculously continued. Now it occurred to me that there might actually be some small non-dance roles in the show that I could take. And that I could do this and STILL have a relaxing, nurturing summer AND even be in the show with the other elder-babes. It struck me that I didn’t have to be the star to have a valid experience with my beloved theater family. All I had to be was there, one way or another. Like all stories of inner torment, this one had its lessons, too. I got to get over myself with EFT, which is now my new favorite tool for such. And I got to remember why I really love my little theater company not because of the big moments in front of the audience (though those aren’t bad either), but because of the whole theater company experience.
By the way, I just found out I did get a part … in the dance corps! Not only must the Gods be crazy, they clearly have a sense of humor, too.
Hopefully the sections above have contributed to your understanding of manage rejection. Share your new understanding about manage rejection with others. They'll thank you for it.
I stumble upon this interesting article by Suzanne Falter-Barns. And it goes like this.....
Every summer I indulge a particular passion of mine: appearing in a musical with our local community theater group. There is an entire pack of us women over-forty-who-must-act (we call ourselves the ‘elder-babes’,) and these shows are one of the high points of our year. This season’s production is going to be no exception: we are doing “Chicago”.
Now let me just say … I’m no dancer. Despite years of dance training in my youth, I tend to get up there and go left when everyone else is going right. No problem, I naively figured. I’d been taking jazz dance classes for an entire year, so how tough was this going to be? I blithely pulled on the fishnets and trotted off to the dance auditions.
Four hours later, I crawled home, assuming the worst. The routines had gone on for hours, every one of them mind numbingly complex. Somehow, an entire legion of great dancers materialized out of nowhere, and whipped through each combination flawlessly. Meanwhile, I hid at the back behind my friend Leslie, a former Broadway hoofer, and tried feebly to follow along.
Call backs were the following weekend, and the ensuing week was pure, unadulterated hell. I violated every last rule I’ve spent all these years preaching about: I assumed I wouldn’t be cast and whined ceaselessly to my husband about it. Then I angrily decided I would rise up and quit the audition process then and there. (After all, if I couldn’t dance, what use could I possibly be to this @*%&$(%! show?) Eventually, I calmed down a bit, but only because my thirteen years old daughter told me to get a grip.
The information about manage rejection presented here will do one of two things: either it will reinforce what you know about manage rejection or it will teach you something new. Both are good outcomes.
I was, in fact, wrestling in the trenches with that old, familiar beast, Rejection. And at this point, Rejection was definitely winning. Its dark little mutterings were on pretty much 24/7, and it did its best to whip me down to the emotional size I was back at about … oh, maybe age twelve. I was called back for one of the few non-dance roles in the show, and found myself fumbling through these auditions, too. I couldn’t hit the very low notes the song required; my acting seemed lifeless and forced to me. I went home with tears in my eyes, convinced that this would be the first summer I wouldn’t make it on stage.
The Rejection demons really moved in for the kill at that point. For the next two days, I dissolved into tears at the drop of the hat. I kept imagining all the great times the cast would be having without me. I buried myself deeper and deeper in self-pity. It was as if I couldn’t turn off the ceaseless drone of my damning mind, no matter what I did. Finally, in a single moment of clarity, I turned to self help.
I did the emotional freedom technique, which combines eye movements, and tapping on certain key meridian points in the body with affirming thoughts and sentences. I’d known of the technique, but had never done it before; still the time for it was obviously right. As I did the EFT process, I felt a curious calm descend over me. “This is … weird,” I told myself as I tapped below my eye, and on my chin. How could a little tapping undo an entire lifetime of vulnerability, humiliation, shame, and deep inner torment!?
When I completed the entire process twice, I became aware that I was suddenly ‘okay’ with the entire audition situation. It just plain seemed okay if I didn’t get cast. I started thinking about selling tickets each night with Bonnie, our fun ticket chair, or maybe just sitting in the audience for a change. I started imagining a summer where I had plenty of time to laze around with the kids, or go on long boat rides with my husband. I started remembering how relaxed summer could actually be.
When I woke up the next day, the mood miraculously continued. Now it occurred to me that there might actually be some small non-dance roles in the show that I could take. And that I could do this and STILL have a relaxing, nurturing summer AND even be in the show with the other elder-babes. It struck me that I didn’t have to be the star to have a valid experience with my beloved theater family. All I had to be was there, one way or another. Like all stories of inner torment, this one had its lessons, too. I got to get over myself with EFT, which is now my new favorite tool for such. And I got to remember why I really love my little theater company not because of the big moments in front of the audience (though those aren’t bad either), but because of the whole theater company experience.
By the way, I just found out I did get a part … in the dance corps! Not only must the Gods be crazy, they clearly have a sense of humor, too.
Hopefully the sections above have contributed to your understanding of manage rejection. Share your new understanding about manage rejection with others. They'll thank you for it.
Dream Pursuit
Would you like to find out what those-in-the-know have to say about dream pursuit? The information in the article below comes straight from well-informed experts with special knowledge about dream pursuit.
You must grow into your dream. Believe it or not, just because you have the dream and are busily pursuing it, doesn’t mean you’re capable of living it yet. That only happens when you’ve become comfy enough with your personal power to fully inhabit your dream, and do what it requires. The sometimes slow process of fulfilling your dream actually trains you to do hard things, like handle rejection, take risks, become more intimate with others, and use your full creative powers. Meanwhile, the Universe will kindly protect you from receiving all that good stuff until you are ready.
Stop being patient and have fun, instead. This is the only real reason there is to pursue your dream. Because the work feels guided, somehow, and personally validating; because it feels as if this is what you were born to do. And so, such work becomes one of the most fun and compelling things in your life. Concentrate on doing what your gut tells you to do, and dig into the process with relish. That takes your mind off the calendar, and then your
work no longer feels so pressured.
Drop your expectations. Life is only really fulfilling when we let it surprise us. And dreams can do so wonderfully well. Yet, in order to be surprised, you have to let go of the clenched urge to know just how things are going to turn out. You have to give up control; you cannot, nor will you ever, be able to predict results. Heavy expectations usually leave you disappointed, not to
mention creatively constipated.
Keep the faith … and stay open. And yet … sometimes bad results happen. Still, those can take you in unexpected directions that yield even greater rewards. Remember the story of Michelangelo’s first job as an architect, on the façade of San Lorenzo (he got fired!) This brief setback actually led him to an entirely new career designing St. Peter’s in Rome, and the Medici chapel, two of the greatest artistic achievements of that period.
Don’t treat your emotions as facts. On a cold day in February five years ago, I lay on my bed, sobbing, convinced I would never publish my self-help book, reach my readers, or find my way out of an ill-suited temp job that I hated. I soggily asked my husband if I should just chuck it all, and go back to work doing this very thing I hated fulltime. Fortunately for me, he told me to stop being hysterical and keep plugging away on my dream. Five years later, I really am living my dream full time, simply because I didn’t treat my momentary upset as factual proof that my dream was kaput. Remember – emotions are emotions; only facts are facts.
Don’t compare your progress with anyone else’s. Your dream is not a test of your self-worth. Instead, it is the playground of your soul, as well as your spiritual mission in life. So treat it as such, and stop playing the big shame tape every time someone else you know accomplishes more than you do. In fact, another person’s achievements have nothing to do with your path, your dream, and your karmic lessons in life. Assuming that they mean anything is simply a trick of your mind. So stop comparing, and get back to work.
Remember how little you know. I contend that our dreams are here for us to seize in small, digestible chunks. If we could really see the larger picture, and know where we’d be in five, ten or twenty years, we’d become overwhelmed instantly. So take what information you do get, and humbly stay your course. Just because it seems like nothing’s ever going to happen DOES NOT MEAN that nothing ever will. It just means that today, that’s how things look.
In other words, remember … you haven’t got a clue how this dream thing will turn out, and you can take all kinds of comfort in that, especially if you’re busy having fun!
You must grow into your dream. Believe it or not, just because you have the dream and are busily pursuing it, doesn’t mean you’re capable of living it yet. That only happens when you’ve become comfy enough with your personal power to fully inhabit your dream, and do what it requires. The sometimes slow process of fulfilling your dream actually trains you to do hard things, like handle rejection, take risks, become more intimate with others, and use your full creative powers. Meanwhile, the Universe will kindly protect you from receiving all that good stuff until you are ready.
Stop being patient and have fun, instead. This is the only real reason there is to pursue your dream. Because the work feels guided, somehow, and personally validating; because it feels as if this is what you were born to do. And so, such work becomes one of the most fun and compelling things in your life. Concentrate on doing what your gut tells you to do, and dig into the process with relish. That takes your mind off the calendar, and then your
work no longer feels so pressured.
Drop your expectations. Life is only really fulfilling when we let it surprise us. And dreams can do so wonderfully well. Yet, in order to be surprised, you have to let go of the clenched urge to know just how things are going to turn out. You have to give up control; you cannot, nor will you ever, be able to predict results. Heavy expectations usually leave you disappointed, not to
mention creatively constipated.
Keep the faith … and stay open. And yet … sometimes bad results happen. Still, those can take you in unexpected directions that yield even greater rewards. Remember the story of Michelangelo’s first job as an architect, on the façade of San Lorenzo (he got fired!) This brief setback actually led him to an entirely new career designing St. Peter’s in Rome, and the Medici chapel, two of the greatest artistic achievements of that period.
Don’t treat your emotions as facts. On a cold day in February five years ago, I lay on my bed, sobbing, convinced I would never publish my self-help book, reach my readers, or find my way out of an ill-suited temp job that I hated. I soggily asked my husband if I should just chuck it all, and go back to work doing this very thing I hated fulltime. Fortunately for me, he told me to stop being hysterical and keep plugging away on my dream. Five years later, I really am living my dream full time, simply because I didn’t treat my momentary upset as factual proof that my dream was kaput. Remember – emotions are emotions; only facts are facts.
Don’t compare your progress with anyone else’s. Your dream is not a test of your self-worth. Instead, it is the playground of your soul, as well as your spiritual mission in life. So treat it as such, and stop playing the big shame tape every time someone else you know accomplishes more than you do. In fact, another person’s achievements have nothing to do with your path, your dream, and your karmic lessons in life. Assuming that they mean anything is simply a trick of your mind. So stop comparing, and get back to work.
Remember how little you know. I contend that our dreams are here for us to seize in small, digestible chunks. If we could really see the larger picture, and know where we’d be in five, ten or twenty years, we’d become overwhelmed instantly. So take what information you do get, and humbly stay your course. Just because it seems like nothing’s ever going to happen DOES NOT MEAN that nothing ever will. It just means that today, that’s how things look.
In other words, remember … you haven’t got a clue how this dream thing will turn out, and you can take all kinds of comfort in that, especially if you’re busy having fun!
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
How and Why to Be Patient.
The only way to keep up with the latest about be patient. is to constantly stay on the lookout for new information. If you read everything you find about be patient., it won't take long for you to become an influential authority.
Today’s essay is all about waiting patiently. Before you roll your eyes, stifle a yawn, and keep on scrolling, hear me out … for there really is a marvelous benefit to all that patience.
Namely, you get to live your dream. We all know that dreams take time to develop and fulfill. You may find yourself waiting for years for something that may or may not ever even happen.
That’s just the way it is when it comes to dream pursuit … and it isn’t always easy.
Perhaps you recently flung yourself down on your bed, sobbing, because the fortieth rejection of your novel arrived. Or you might have decided to live on your credit card for six months while you try to get a break as an actor, and now creditors are calling. You could even be the person who just can’t stay awake long enough at night to get your new business plan written … so you’re convinced your dream just plain won’t ever happen.
Yet, I am here to say it will. AS LONG AS you are supremely patient, and remember these few basic truths about successful dream pursuit.
Interesting parallels between sex and creativity
The following article lists some simple, informative tips that will help you have a better experience with sex and creativity.
It’s all about surrender. The more you can get out of your head, and simply let go, the further into your process you will go. And the grander the result will be.
The real communication is entirely beyond words. When an actor gets up to deliver a monologue, or a poet composes a sonnet, the words take you only half the way there. The rest happens between the lines, in the emotional truth with which it’s delivered. Same with sex. And without that emotional truth… well, it’s all a lot of hooey.
The spiritual usually comes into play. My belief is that all of this gets handed to us on that big Universal platter. And your choice is to accept or decline. So truly authentic creative or sexual endeavors can’t help having a mystical or divine underlayer.
You can’t do it unless you really, truly want to. OK, sure. You can fake your way into bed with a relative stranger, or stumble along writing a book you don’t care about. But you’re not going to sustain it. The sex will be cheap and easy; the manuscript will sputter and die. Why? Because you don’t really, truly want to be there.
Both require bravery. Deep connections make us passionate lovers, and fearless communicators. We act from our most vulnerable spot; the little piece of ourselves that’s most hidden and protected, yet full of the greatest power and truth.
Lust makes you stupid. But love makes you wise. I saw this little quote on a therapist’s bulletin board, and it is so very true. When it comes to creating, the lust for glory and fame makes us do silly, inauthentic things we later regret. It’s the same with lust for inappropriate people. On the other hand, when we get it right – boy, is it right! Authentic relationships and creative endeavors are fine, powerful teachers who leave us much wiser, and much stronger.
You’re not going to be satisfied until it’s over. Not pursuing that book, or business, or creative project that keeps bugging you is like walking away from sex mid-act. Beginning may be awkward; you may feel shy and vulnerable. But once you get going, the passion to continue takes hold and you simply cannot stop until you are complete. (On the other hand, you can
walk away easily from half-baked acts of love or creative projects. That’s how you know when it’s the real thing.)
The more you give, the more you get. You’re not going to have a knock-out painting exhibition if you hold back with the brush. Nor are you going to get Lover of the Year if you lay back and simply wait to receive. Both require energy and the desire to give.
Both make you feel much more alive. Enough said. At their best, both are all wrapped up with love. Both sex and creating require the generous, uninhibited sharing of your heart. And the more you can open your heart and let the floodgates open on your soul, the more profound will be your experience.And your impact.
Hopefully the sections above have contributed to your understanding of sex , creativity. Share your new understanding about sex , creativity with others. They'll thank you for it.
It’s all about surrender. The more you can get out of your head, and simply let go, the further into your process you will go. And the grander the result will be.
The real communication is entirely beyond words. When an actor gets up to deliver a monologue, or a poet composes a sonnet, the words take you only half the way there. The rest happens between the lines, in the emotional truth with which it’s delivered. Same with sex. And without that emotional truth… well, it’s all a lot of hooey.
The spiritual usually comes into play. My belief is that all of this gets handed to us on that big Universal platter. And your choice is to accept or decline. So truly authentic creative or sexual endeavors can’t help having a mystical or divine underlayer.
You can’t do it unless you really, truly want to. OK, sure. You can fake your way into bed with a relative stranger, or stumble along writing a book you don’t care about. But you’re not going to sustain it. The sex will be cheap and easy; the manuscript will sputter and die. Why? Because you don’t really, truly want to be there.
Both require bravery. Deep connections make us passionate lovers, and fearless communicators. We act from our most vulnerable spot; the little piece of ourselves that’s most hidden and protected, yet full of the greatest power and truth.
Lust makes you stupid. But love makes you wise. I saw this little quote on a therapist’s bulletin board, and it is so very true. When it comes to creating, the lust for glory and fame makes us do silly, inauthentic things we later regret. It’s the same with lust for inappropriate people. On the other hand, when we get it right – boy, is it right! Authentic relationships and creative endeavors are fine, powerful teachers who leave us much wiser, and much stronger.
You’re not going to be satisfied until it’s over. Not pursuing that book, or business, or creative project that keeps bugging you is like walking away from sex mid-act. Beginning may be awkward; you may feel shy and vulnerable. But once you get going, the passion to continue takes hold and you simply cannot stop until you are complete. (On the other hand, you can
walk away easily from half-baked acts of love or creative projects. That’s how you know when it’s the real thing.)
The more you give, the more you get. You’re not going to have a knock-out painting exhibition if you hold back with the brush. Nor are you going to get Lover of the Year if you lay back and simply wait to receive. Both require energy and the desire to give.
Both make you feel much more alive. Enough said. At their best, both are all wrapped up with love. Both sex and creating require the generous, uninhibited sharing of your heart. And the more you can open your heart and let the floodgates open on your soul, the more profound will be your experience.And your impact.
Hopefully the sections above have contributed to your understanding of sex , creativity. Share your new understanding about sex , creativity with others. They'll thank you for it.
How Sex and Creativity Connect
This summer while working on various performance projects, I got some interesting new insights into the creative process. Specifically, I learned that it really is all about sex. It’s like Deepak Chopra said in a lecture I attended years ago: “Creativity is ultimately sexual … I’m sorry but it is!”
I couldn’t agree more. I’d always had this sense that self-expression, passion and the stirrings of your soul were intertwined. But it wasn’t until I spent a few months involved in Chicago, a show that was all about the bump and grind, that I really began to see the deep connection.
When I am performing or writing, and things are really going well, I find myself slipping into a wonderful, surging sea of release. The pure stream of expression coming out of me is so unscripted, free and authentic, that I could stay right there for hours, doing only that. I feel brilliant and strong, and wonderfully alive as if I’m just exactly what I should be.
And, of course, the same is true about sex. Communication happens at high, peak levels. It’s all perfectly sacred and profound, yet at the same time the most normal thing in the world. I am happy and complete.
I couldn’t agree more. I’d always had this sense that self-expression, passion and the stirrings of your soul were intertwined. But it wasn’t until I spent a few months involved in Chicago, a show that was all about the bump and grind, that I really began to see the deep connection.
When I am performing or writing, and things are really going well, I find myself slipping into a wonderful, surging sea of release. The pure stream of expression coming out of me is so unscripted, free and authentic, that I could stay right there for hours, doing only that. I feel brilliant and strong, and wonderfully alive as if I’m just exactly what I should be.
And, of course, the same is true about sex. Communication happens at high, peak levels. It’s all perfectly sacred and profound, yet at the same time the most normal thing in the world. I am happy and complete.
Creative.
The following article lists some simple, informative tips that will help you have a better experience with creative.
The Creative Channel is on all the time. They simply have to tune in, and boom, they're off in that wonderful, rich creative place where inspiration lives.
They feel things deeply … and need to express it. I notice this particularly around my friends who are actors … their emotions run so freely and powerfully, that they feel everything twice as intensely. Furthermore, they let you know it.
They have natural empathy. Geniuses tend to know how you’d feel at any given moment, so they have a need to give away their feelings. An interviewer once asked Broadway composer Steven Sondheim if he could write a song about anything, and he replied, no but that he could write about anyone, as long as he knew who the character is.
They find beauty in unlikely places the rest of us miss. I’m thinking of the 19th century French artists Toulouse Lautrec and Monet who found enduring beauty in common haystacks and down at the heels prostitutes. True geniuses love the bittersweet, the forgotten, the simple.
They’re not afraid to cry. The creative genius knows that tears are the juice of life, whether they are tears of happiness, despair or simply deep relating.
They’re different and often pay a price for it. Creative geniuses often have childhoods marked with ridicule or isolation. And those tough times can continue right on through adulthood, though modern times have made such non-conformity more acceptable. I’m thinking of people like Oscar Wilde, Frida Khalo, Orson Welles, Michael Jackson, Robert Mapplethorpe, and Andy Warhol.
They are brave. Many a genius is trained by social ostracism to be brave and strong in standing up for their work. They know their work is valid despite what the crowd says, and they stick by it steadfastly. And public opinions can sway, often long after the artist’s death. Think of Vincent Van Gogh, who only sold two paintings in his entire lifetime.
They are prolific. Typically, creative geniuses are always creating. It’s simply what they do. Cole Porter, for instance, wrote more than 800 songs. And he wrote them wherever he went: on luxury cruise decks, or weekend jaunts to the country. Porter, who was notoriously stoic, said he finished one of his songs while waiting for rescue, after his legs had been crushed by a horse.
They simply can’t do a half-baked job. Look at all the geniuses of the world, like Michelangelo, who literally changed the world because they refused to settle for less. In fact, Michelangelo was famous for literally eating and sleeping with his work, yet never being completely satisfied. About his work in the Sistine Chapel, he said; “I am no painter!”
They love their work deeply. For this example, I turn to my own father, John Falter, who was an artist. A friend asked once what he’d do if he could do absolutely anything in the world. He replied, “I’d go up to my studio and paint.” For some artists, this love is the big one. Michelangelo, who never married, said: “I already have a wife who is too much for me; one who keeps me unceasingly struggling on. It is my art, and my works are my children.”
Those who only know one or two facts about creative can be confused by misleading information. The best way to help those who are misled is to gently correct them with the truths you're learning here.
The Creative Channel is on all the time. They simply have to tune in, and boom, they're off in that wonderful, rich creative place where inspiration lives.
They feel things deeply … and need to express it. I notice this particularly around my friends who are actors … their emotions run so freely and powerfully, that they feel everything twice as intensely. Furthermore, they let you know it.
They have natural empathy. Geniuses tend to know how you’d feel at any given moment, so they have a need to give away their feelings. An interviewer once asked Broadway composer Steven Sondheim if he could write a song about anything, and he replied, no but that he could write about anyone, as long as he knew who the character is.
They find beauty in unlikely places the rest of us miss. I’m thinking of the 19th century French artists Toulouse Lautrec and Monet who found enduring beauty in common haystacks and down at the heels prostitutes. True geniuses love the bittersweet, the forgotten, the simple.
They’re not afraid to cry. The creative genius knows that tears are the juice of life, whether they are tears of happiness, despair or simply deep relating.
They’re different and often pay a price for it. Creative geniuses often have childhoods marked with ridicule or isolation. And those tough times can continue right on through adulthood, though modern times have made such non-conformity more acceptable. I’m thinking of people like Oscar Wilde, Frida Khalo, Orson Welles, Michael Jackson, Robert Mapplethorpe, and Andy Warhol.
They are brave. Many a genius is trained by social ostracism to be brave and strong in standing up for their work. They know their work is valid despite what the crowd says, and they stick by it steadfastly. And public opinions can sway, often long after the artist’s death. Think of Vincent Van Gogh, who only sold two paintings in his entire lifetime.
They are prolific. Typically, creative geniuses are always creating. It’s simply what they do. Cole Porter, for instance, wrote more than 800 songs. And he wrote them wherever he went: on luxury cruise decks, or weekend jaunts to the country. Porter, who was notoriously stoic, said he finished one of his songs while waiting for rescue, after his legs had been crushed by a horse.
They simply can’t do a half-baked job. Look at all the geniuses of the world, like Michelangelo, who literally changed the world because they refused to settle for less. In fact, Michelangelo was famous for literally eating and sleeping with his work, yet never being completely satisfied. About his work in the Sistine Chapel, he said; “I am no painter!”
They love their work deeply. For this example, I turn to my own father, John Falter, who was an artist. A friend asked once what he’d do if he could do absolutely anything in the world. He replied, “I’d go up to my studio and paint.” For some artists, this love is the big one. Michelangelo, who never married, said: “I already have a wife who is too much for me; one who keeps me unceasingly struggling on. It is my art, and my works are my children.”
Those who only know one or two facts about creative can be confused by misleading information. The best way to help those who are misled is to gently correct them with the truths you're learning here.
The Hallmarks of Genius
Recently, I had the great fortune to spend the day at the Vermont recording studio of a jazz musician named Chuck Eller. Chuck recorded my new Discover Your Soul Purpose meditation CD, and offered to provide some background piano music as well.
From the beginning, I knew the meditations needed some kind of scoring, but exactly what and how eluded me. There are no entries in the phone book for "Composer Mystical, Healing, Background Stuff". Furthermore, I had no idea how I was going to 'direct' such a musician. ("More ... creative. No! More ... uh ... uh ... inspiring?") The whole thing was loose enough to be almost frightening.
Meanwhile, the clock was ticking and the meter was running. Enter Chuck. From the moment he sat down to play, things rolled magically. I'd say, "OK, Chuck, in this part they have to be in a wildflower field." He'd think for a minute, and then just start playing the most quintessential wildflower music you've ever heard. Then I'd say, "Now this part is warmer like The Waltons." And suddenly we'd be rocking on the front porch with John, a boy and Grandpa. Chuck was able to play these musical inserts totally spontaneously (nothing was composed in advance.)
And he ended at just the right spot almost every single time, without even knowing how long the music should be. He did this a remarkable 23 times!
The best part was listening to Chuck fool around on the piano between each recording we made, as he probed around for good musical ideas. We began to fade into the background as he went deeper and deeper into his creative trance. Almost sheepishly, he finally looked up and said, "You know, I could just do this all day."
Working with Chuck got me thinking about how accessible his 'creative channel' was for him and how many people we call geniuses share this trait, along with some other distinct qualities. Just for fun, I thought I’d catalog some of those characteristics that belong to geniuses … qualities many of us share in varying degrees.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
"THE POWER OF A SCOPE"
We all know the power of a scope if you need to focus in on a target and hit it.
We all need to develop and truly understand the power of the human mind's
scope. All of us have inside of us the potential to be as powerful as the most
high-tech laser scope available today. A scope is designed to focus in on a
target without getting distracted or losing focus in order to hit its target right on
the bull’s eye. Now remember that all mechanical scopes are programmed by
human technology and if we can do it for machines, we can do it for ourselves.
As you are progressing each day on your journey to your ultimate outcome in life,
you need to stay 110% focused on your target. You need to focus in on your
WHY in life and not be distracted by all the other negative noise we all hear each
day in this negative world. You are 1000% more advanced in your focus just by
reading this article today, because most people stop personal development as
soon as their formal education stops. I always say formal education will get you
a job, but self-education will enable you to design a life you want to live!
Your personal scope in life can be finely tuned each day based on the people
you associate with along with your personal commitment to personal
development. As you develop your mind, you will be able to stay focused on
your target and hit it right in the bull’s eye. I am a true believer in the daily
focusing of your sniper, which is a minimum of 15 minutes of personal
development per day. This can be done by listening to audiotapes or by reading
written materials, which will empower you and improve your results.
I personally invest 30-45 minutes each day for my own personal development in
life. The outcome of your internal scope in life is ultimately determined by how
you fine-tune it each day. You need to ask yourself an honest question, "Am I
doing all I can do to hit my target (your WHY) in life by enhancing each and every
day the input to my human scope?" If the answer is "no", then you are in the
right place at the right time when visiting us here at www.johndilemme.com!
We all need to develop and truly understand the power of the human mind's
scope. All of us have inside of us the potential to be as powerful as the most
high-tech laser scope available today. A scope is designed to focus in on a
target without getting distracted or losing focus in order to hit its target right on
the bull’s eye. Now remember that all mechanical scopes are programmed by
human technology and if we can do it for machines, we can do it for ourselves.
As you are progressing each day on your journey to your ultimate outcome in life,
you need to stay 110% focused on your target. You need to focus in on your
WHY in life and not be distracted by all the other negative noise we all hear each
day in this negative world. You are 1000% more advanced in your focus just by
reading this article today, because most people stop personal development as
soon as their formal education stops. I always say formal education will get you
a job, but self-education will enable you to design a life you want to live!
Your personal scope in life can be finely tuned each day based on the people
you associate with along with your personal commitment to personal
development. As you develop your mind, you will be able to stay focused on
your target and hit it right in the bull’s eye. I am a true believer in the daily
focusing of your sniper, which is a minimum of 15 minutes of personal
development per day. This can be done by listening to audiotapes or by reading
written materials, which will empower you and improve your results.
I personally invest 30-45 minutes each day for my own personal development in
life. The outcome of your internal scope in life is ultimately determined by how
you fine-tune it each day. You need to ask yourself an honest question, "Am I
doing all I can do to hit my target (your WHY) in life by enhancing each and every
day the input to my human scope?" If the answer is "no", then you are in the
right place at the right time when visiting us here at www.johndilemme.com!
“PERSISTENCE”
I feel that persistence is one of the main keys behind all successful people.
Every successful person will tell you that their ongoing persistence is what
separated them from those who gave up. Persistence is the power to hold on in
spite of everything else -- to endure. This is a winner's quality. Persistence is
also the ability to face defeat again and again without giving up -- to push on in
the face of great difficulty. It also means taking pains to overcome every
obstacle, to do all that's necessary to reach our goals.
I am a true believer that you must pay the price for success in life. There is no
such thing as a free lunch or a “get-rich-quick” scheme that is going to fulfill you
on a long-term basis. “P” is the first letter in the word Persistence and the first
letter in Price, which is the key to understanding that you must be truly persistent
and willing to pay the price in your endeavor in order to achieve your goals!
Most people do not really internalize what being persistent really means.
Persistence means when everyone looks at you and says “What do you think
you’re doing?” or “Who do you think you are?”…You continue on your quest for
success! The successful person who truly understands the meaning of
Persistence will know that this is part of the price you pay – not succumbing to
the limitations put on you by others. Anyone who has hit the wall in their success
journey has had to turn to their “persistence gene” to see how strong and
internalized it really is! I can tell you all the pieces work together for you because
if you know your “WHY” you will be able to look inside and pull through. This is
persistence!
As you are growing in life, you will always remember the times when you needed
to be persistent in your efforts to pull through! A major tip to pulling through is to
have a mastermind group of people who believe in what you are working toward!
Are YOU persistent?
“REJECTION”
I am very enthused to address the topic of REJECTION! How you handle
rejection is in direct proportion to how you maintain a persistent level of action in
order to feel fulfilled and find your WHY in life. As a super-achiever in life (which
means you have your WHY in place), you are driven to fulfill your personal goals
set for you on a daily basis. In the course of this daily action, you will inevitably
encounter rejection and the incredible power it exerts over you!
Just when you are feeling great and your business is beginning to grow, you will
experience rejection. Out of nowhere, it will slap you right in the face like an icy,
cold wind from the Arctic, and your little voice inside begins to doubt whether or
not you can really achieve what you initially set out for. YOU MUST LEARN TO
LOVE REJECTION! You must become excited when you get rejected while, at
the same time, you attempt to forge ahead!
The most successful people are those who have felt the pains of rejection, but
because of their DETERMINATION they pressed onward and won the game. As
you are building your business, you need to set a goal and continue toward it
regardless of the degree of discomfort that rejection may be causing you!
Rejection is an extremely negative force; therefore, it is to your benefit to channel
this force to produce positive results!
Thomas Edison is famous for the 10,000 ways that a person couldn't produce
electricity as a result of his numerous attempts to reach his goal - producing
electricity! As we all know, he eventually succeeded. But rather than seeing his
previous attempts as a negative force, he channeled all that he learned to
produce the positive result of finally having reached his goal! You too will
develop incredible character as you continue to build your business,
REGARDLESS of the rejection that you will experience along the way. As a
super-achiever, you will use your knowledge of rejection and its power to your
advantage! EXPECT REJECTION, LOVE REJECTION, LEARN FROM
REJECTION AND YOU WILL SUCEED!
"The WINNER'S MINDSET VS. A LOSER'S MINDSET"
We all have the ability to make decisions that will determine the ultimate outcome
and the achievement of our WHY in life! There is a very thin line between being
a Winner or being a Loser. The Olympic Games are a great example of this
statement. You could win a Gold Medal by beating your competitor by the tiniest
one thousandth of a second! When you compare life to the Olympics, it is the
same. You need to always maintain a "Winner's Mindset" in order to attain your
WHY in Life!
The following is a comparison of a Winner's Mindset vs. a Loser's Mindset-
Where are you? Better yet, where are the people who are on your Mastermind
Team as per my writing last week?
W - The winner is always part of the answer;
I - The loser is always part of the problem;
N - The winner always has a program;
N - The loser always has an excuse;
E - The winner says, "Let me do it for you;"
E - The loser says, "That's not my job;"
R - The winner sees an answer for every problem;
VS. - The loser sees a problem for every answer;
L - The winner sees a green near every sand trap;
O - The loser sees two or three sand traps near every green;
S - The winner says, "It may be difficult, but it's possible;
E - The loser says, "It may be possible, but it's too difficult."
R - BE A WINNER!!!
Now you truly need to make a conscious decision to be a Winner and always
maintain a Winner's mindset in order to win the Gold Medal in YOUR life! Just
like Olympian athletes, you need to train EACH AND EVERY DAY
CONSISTENTLY to win your Gold Medal! The #1 training method is to
continually feed your mind with top-quality mental and motivational nourishment.
As you feed your mind, the winner's mindset will start to flourish. We at
www.johndilemme.com can assist you in your intellectual and motivational diet by
encouraging you to invest today in the #1 personal development training
programs available by visiting http://www.johndilemme.com/ap_products.htm
Find your WHY and Fly!
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