The following article lists some simple, informative tips that will help you have a better experience with sex and creativity.
It’s all about surrender. The more you can get out of your head, and simply let go, the further into your process you will go. And the grander the result will be.
The real communication is entirely beyond words. When an actor gets up to deliver a monologue, or a poet composes a sonnet, the words take you only half the way there. The rest happens between the lines, in the emotional truth with which it’s delivered. Same with sex. And without that emotional truth… well, it’s all a lot of hooey.
The spiritual usually comes into play. My belief is that all of this gets handed to us on that big Universal platter. And your choice is to accept or decline. So truly authentic creative or sexual endeavors can’t help having a mystical or divine underlayer.
You can’t do it unless you really, truly want to. OK, sure. You can fake your way into bed with a relative stranger, or stumble along writing a book you don’t care about. But you’re not going to sustain it. The sex will be cheap and easy; the manuscript will sputter and die. Why? Because you don’t really, truly want to be there.
Both require bravery. Deep connections make us passionate lovers, and fearless communicators. We act from our most vulnerable spot; the little piece of ourselves that’s most hidden and protected, yet full of the greatest power and truth.
Lust makes you stupid. But love makes you wise. I saw this little quote on a therapist’s bulletin board, and it is so very true. When it comes to creating, the lust for glory and fame makes us do silly, inauthentic things we later regret. It’s the same with lust for inappropriate people. On the other hand, when we get it right – boy, is it right! Authentic relationships and creative endeavors are fine, powerful teachers who leave us much wiser, and much stronger.
You’re not going to be satisfied until it’s over. Not pursuing that book, or business, or creative project that keeps bugging you is like walking away from sex mid-act. Beginning may be awkward; you may feel shy and vulnerable. But once you get going, the passion to continue takes hold and you simply cannot stop until you are complete. (On the other hand, you can
walk away easily from half-baked acts of love or creative projects. That’s how you know when it’s the real thing.)
The more you give, the more you get. You’re not going to have a knock-out painting exhibition if you hold back with the brush. Nor are you going to get Lover of the Year if you lay back and simply wait to receive. Both require energy and the desire to give.
Both make you feel much more alive. Enough said. At their best, both are all wrapped up with love. Both sex and creating require the generous, uninhibited sharing of your heart. And the more you can open your heart and let the floodgates open on your soul, the more profound will be your experience.And your impact.
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Wednesday, November 21, 2007
How Sex and Creativity Connect
This summer while working on various performance projects, I got some interesting new insights into the creative process. Specifically, I learned that it really is all about sex. It’s like Deepak Chopra said in a lecture I attended years ago: “Creativity is ultimately sexual … I’m sorry but it is!”
I couldn’t agree more. I’d always had this sense that self-expression, passion and the stirrings of your soul were intertwined. But it wasn’t until I spent a few months involved in Chicago, a show that was all about the bump and grind, that I really began to see the deep connection.
When I am performing or writing, and things are really going well, I find myself slipping into a wonderful, surging sea of release. The pure stream of expression coming out of me is so unscripted, free and authentic, that I could stay right there for hours, doing only that. I feel brilliant and strong, and wonderfully alive as if I’m just exactly what I should be.
And, of course, the same is true about sex. Communication happens at high, peak levels. It’s all perfectly sacred and profound, yet at the same time the most normal thing in the world. I am happy and complete.
I couldn’t agree more. I’d always had this sense that self-expression, passion and the stirrings of your soul were intertwined. But it wasn’t until I spent a few months involved in Chicago, a show that was all about the bump and grind, that I really began to see the deep connection.
When I am performing or writing, and things are really going well, I find myself slipping into a wonderful, surging sea of release. The pure stream of expression coming out of me is so unscripted, free and authentic, that I could stay right there for hours, doing only that. I feel brilliant and strong, and wonderfully alive as if I’m just exactly what I should be.
And, of course, the same is true about sex. Communication happens at high, peak levels. It’s all perfectly sacred and profound, yet at the same time the most normal thing in the world. I am happy and complete.
Creative.
The following article lists some simple, informative tips that will help you have a better experience with creative.
The Creative Channel is on all the time. They simply have to tune in, and boom, they're off in that wonderful, rich creative place where inspiration lives.
They feel things deeply … and need to express it. I notice this particularly around my friends who are actors … their emotions run so freely and powerfully, that they feel everything twice as intensely. Furthermore, they let you know it.
They have natural empathy. Geniuses tend to know how you’d feel at any given moment, so they have a need to give away their feelings. An interviewer once asked Broadway composer Steven Sondheim if he could write a song about anything, and he replied, no but that he could write about anyone, as long as he knew who the character is.
They find beauty in unlikely places the rest of us miss. I’m thinking of the 19th century French artists Toulouse Lautrec and Monet who found enduring beauty in common haystacks and down at the heels prostitutes. True geniuses love the bittersweet, the forgotten, the simple.
They’re not afraid to cry. The creative genius knows that tears are the juice of life, whether they are tears of happiness, despair or simply deep relating.
They’re different and often pay a price for it. Creative geniuses often have childhoods marked with ridicule or isolation. And those tough times can continue right on through adulthood, though modern times have made such non-conformity more acceptable. I’m thinking of people like Oscar Wilde, Frida Khalo, Orson Welles, Michael Jackson, Robert Mapplethorpe, and Andy Warhol.
They are brave. Many a genius is trained by social ostracism to be brave and strong in standing up for their work. They know their work is valid despite what the crowd says, and they stick by it steadfastly. And public opinions can sway, often long after the artist’s death. Think of Vincent Van Gogh, who only sold two paintings in his entire lifetime.
They are prolific. Typically, creative geniuses are always creating. It’s simply what they do. Cole Porter, for instance, wrote more than 800 songs. And he wrote them wherever he went: on luxury cruise decks, or weekend jaunts to the country. Porter, who was notoriously stoic, said he finished one of his songs while waiting for rescue, after his legs had been crushed by a horse.
They simply can’t do a half-baked job. Look at all the geniuses of the world, like Michelangelo, who literally changed the world because they refused to settle for less. In fact, Michelangelo was famous for literally eating and sleeping with his work, yet never being completely satisfied. About his work in the Sistine Chapel, he said; “I am no painter!”
They love their work deeply. For this example, I turn to my own father, John Falter, who was an artist. A friend asked once what he’d do if he could do absolutely anything in the world. He replied, “I’d go up to my studio and paint.” For some artists, this love is the big one. Michelangelo, who never married, said: “I already have a wife who is too much for me; one who keeps me unceasingly struggling on. It is my art, and my works are my children.”
Those who only know one or two facts about creative can be confused by misleading information. The best way to help those who are misled is to gently correct them with the truths you're learning here.
The Creative Channel is on all the time. They simply have to tune in, and boom, they're off in that wonderful, rich creative place where inspiration lives.
They feel things deeply … and need to express it. I notice this particularly around my friends who are actors … their emotions run so freely and powerfully, that they feel everything twice as intensely. Furthermore, they let you know it.
They have natural empathy. Geniuses tend to know how you’d feel at any given moment, so they have a need to give away their feelings. An interviewer once asked Broadway composer Steven Sondheim if he could write a song about anything, and he replied, no but that he could write about anyone, as long as he knew who the character is.
They find beauty in unlikely places the rest of us miss. I’m thinking of the 19th century French artists Toulouse Lautrec and Monet who found enduring beauty in common haystacks and down at the heels prostitutes. True geniuses love the bittersweet, the forgotten, the simple.
They’re not afraid to cry. The creative genius knows that tears are the juice of life, whether they are tears of happiness, despair or simply deep relating.
They’re different and often pay a price for it. Creative geniuses often have childhoods marked with ridicule or isolation. And those tough times can continue right on through adulthood, though modern times have made such non-conformity more acceptable. I’m thinking of people like Oscar Wilde, Frida Khalo, Orson Welles, Michael Jackson, Robert Mapplethorpe, and Andy Warhol.
They are brave. Many a genius is trained by social ostracism to be brave and strong in standing up for their work. They know their work is valid despite what the crowd says, and they stick by it steadfastly. And public opinions can sway, often long after the artist’s death. Think of Vincent Van Gogh, who only sold two paintings in his entire lifetime.
They are prolific. Typically, creative geniuses are always creating. It’s simply what they do. Cole Porter, for instance, wrote more than 800 songs. And he wrote them wherever he went: on luxury cruise decks, or weekend jaunts to the country. Porter, who was notoriously stoic, said he finished one of his songs while waiting for rescue, after his legs had been crushed by a horse.
They simply can’t do a half-baked job. Look at all the geniuses of the world, like Michelangelo, who literally changed the world because they refused to settle for less. In fact, Michelangelo was famous for literally eating and sleeping with his work, yet never being completely satisfied. About his work in the Sistine Chapel, he said; “I am no painter!”
They love their work deeply. For this example, I turn to my own father, John Falter, who was an artist. A friend asked once what he’d do if he could do absolutely anything in the world. He replied, “I’d go up to my studio and paint.” For some artists, this love is the big one. Michelangelo, who never married, said: “I already have a wife who is too much for me; one who keeps me unceasingly struggling on. It is my art, and my works are my children.”
Those who only know one or two facts about creative can be confused by misleading information. The best way to help those who are misled is to gently correct them with the truths you're learning here.
The Hallmarks of Genius
Recently, I had the great fortune to spend the day at the Vermont recording studio of a jazz musician named Chuck Eller. Chuck recorded my new Discover Your Soul Purpose meditation CD, and offered to provide some background piano music as well.
From the beginning, I knew the meditations needed some kind of scoring, but exactly what and how eluded me. There are no entries in the phone book for "Composer Mystical, Healing, Background Stuff". Furthermore, I had no idea how I was going to 'direct' such a musician. ("More ... creative. No! More ... uh ... uh ... inspiring?") The whole thing was loose enough to be almost frightening.
Meanwhile, the clock was ticking and the meter was running. Enter Chuck. From the moment he sat down to play, things rolled magically. I'd say, "OK, Chuck, in this part they have to be in a wildflower field." He'd think for a minute, and then just start playing the most quintessential wildflower music you've ever heard. Then I'd say, "Now this part is warmer like The Waltons." And suddenly we'd be rocking on the front porch with John, a boy and Grandpa. Chuck was able to play these musical inserts totally spontaneously (nothing was composed in advance.)
And he ended at just the right spot almost every single time, without even knowing how long the music should be. He did this a remarkable 23 times!
The best part was listening to Chuck fool around on the piano between each recording we made, as he probed around for good musical ideas. We began to fade into the background as he went deeper and deeper into his creative trance. Almost sheepishly, he finally looked up and said, "You know, I could just do this all day."
Working with Chuck got me thinking about how accessible his 'creative channel' was for him and how many people we call geniuses share this trait, along with some other distinct qualities. Just for fun, I thought I’d catalog some of those characteristics that belong to geniuses … qualities many of us share in varying degrees.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
"THE POWER OF A SCOPE"
We all know the power of a scope if you need to focus in on a target and hit it.
We all need to develop and truly understand the power of the human mind's
scope. All of us have inside of us the potential to be as powerful as the most
high-tech laser scope available today. A scope is designed to focus in on a
target without getting distracted or losing focus in order to hit its target right on
the bull’s eye. Now remember that all mechanical scopes are programmed by
human technology and if we can do it for machines, we can do it for ourselves.
As you are progressing each day on your journey to your ultimate outcome in life,
you need to stay 110% focused on your target. You need to focus in on your
WHY in life and not be distracted by all the other negative noise we all hear each
day in this negative world. You are 1000% more advanced in your focus just by
reading this article today, because most people stop personal development as
soon as their formal education stops. I always say formal education will get you
a job, but self-education will enable you to design a life you want to live!
Your personal scope in life can be finely tuned each day based on the people
you associate with along with your personal commitment to personal
development. As you develop your mind, you will be able to stay focused on
your target and hit it right in the bull’s eye. I am a true believer in the daily
focusing of your sniper, which is a minimum of 15 minutes of personal
development per day. This can be done by listening to audiotapes or by reading
written materials, which will empower you and improve your results.
I personally invest 30-45 minutes each day for my own personal development in
life. The outcome of your internal scope in life is ultimately determined by how
you fine-tune it each day. You need to ask yourself an honest question, "Am I
doing all I can do to hit my target (your WHY) in life by enhancing each and every
day the input to my human scope?" If the answer is "no", then you are in the
right place at the right time when visiting us here at www.johndilemme.com!
We all need to develop and truly understand the power of the human mind's
scope. All of us have inside of us the potential to be as powerful as the most
high-tech laser scope available today. A scope is designed to focus in on a
target without getting distracted or losing focus in order to hit its target right on
the bull’s eye. Now remember that all mechanical scopes are programmed by
human technology and if we can do it for machines, we can do it for ourselves.
As you are progressing each day on your journey to your ultimate outcome in life,
you need to stay 110% focused on your target. You need to focus in on your
WHY in life and not be distracted by all the other negative noise we all hear each
day in this negative world. You are 1000% more advanced in your focus just by
reading this article today, because most people stop personal development as
soon as their formal education stops. I always say formal education will get you
a job, but self-education will enable you to design a life you want to live!
Your personal scope in life can be finely tuned each day based on the people
you associate with along with your personal commitment to personal
development. As you develop your mind, you will be able to stay focused on
your target and hit it right in the bull’s eye. I am a true believer in the daily
focusing of your sniper, which is a minimum of 15 minutes of personal
development per day. This can be done by listening to audiotapes or by reading
written materials, which will empower you and improve your results.
I personally invest 30-45 minutes each day for my own personal development in
life. The outcome of your internal scope in life is ultimately determined by how
you fine-tune it each day. You need to ask yourself an honest question, "Am I
doing all I can do to hit my target (your WHY) in life by enhancing each and every
day the input to my human scope?" If the answer is "no", then you are in the
right place at the right time when visiting us here at www.johndilemme.com!
“PERSISTENCE”
I feel that persistence is one of the main keys behind all successful people.
Every successful person will tell you that their ongoing persistence is what
separated them from those who gave up. Persistence is the power to hold on in
spite of everything else -- to endure. This is a winner's quality. Persistence is
also the ability to face defeat again and again without giving up -- to push on in
the face of great difficulty. It also means taking pains to overcome every
obstacle, to do all that's necessary to reach our goals.
I am a true believer that you must pay the price for success in life. There is no
such thing as a free lunch or a “get-rich-quick” scheme that is going to fulfill you
on a long-term basis. “P” is the first letter in the word Persistence and the first
letter in Price, which is the key to understanding that you must be truly persistent
and willing to pay the price in your endeavor in order to achieve your goals!
Most people do not really internalize what being persistent really means.
Persistence means when everyone looks at you and says “What do you think
you’re doing?” or “Who do you think you are?”…You continue on your quest for
success! The successful person who truly understands the meaning of
Persistence will know that this is part of the price you pay – not succumbing to
the limitations put on you by others. Anyone who has hit the wall in their success
journey has had to turn to their “persistence gene” to see how strong and
internalized it really is! I can tell you all the pieces work together for you because
if you know your “WHY” you will be able to look inside and pull through. This is
persistence!
As you are growing in life, you will always remember the times when you needed
to be persistent in your efforts to pull through! A major tip to pulling through is to
have a mastermind group of people who believe in what you are working toward!
Are YOU persistent?
“REJECTION”
I am very enthused to address the topic of REJECTION! How you handle
rejection is in direct proportion to how you maintain a persistent level of action in
order to feel fulfilled and find your WHY in life. As a super-achiever in life (which
means you have your WHY in place), you are driven to fulfill your personal goals
set for you on a daily basis. In the course of this daily action, you will inevitably
encounter rejection and the incredible power it exerts over you!
Just when you are feeling great and your business is beginning to grow, you will
experience rejection. Out of nowhere, it will slap you right in the face like an icy,
cold wind from the Arctic, and your little voice inside begins to doubt whether or
not you can really achieve what you initially set out for. YOU MUST LEARN TO
LOVE REJECTION! You must become excited when you get rejected while, at
the same time, you attempt to forge ahead!
The most successful people are those who have felt the pains of rejection, but
because of their DETERMINATION they pressed onward and won the game. As
you are building your business, you need to set a goal and continue toward it
regardless of the degree of discomfort that rejection may be causing you!
Rejection is an extremely negative force; therefore, it is to your benefit to channel
this force to produce positive results!
Thomas Edison is famous for the 10,000 ways that a person couldn't produce
electricity as a result of his numerous attempts to reach his goal - producing
electricity! As we all know, he eventually succeeded. But rather than seeing his
previous attempts as a negative force, he channeled all that he learned to
produce the positive result of finally having reached his goal! You too will
develop incredible character as you continue to build your business,
REGARDLESS of the rejection that you will experience along the way. As a
super-achiever, you will use your knowledge of rejection and its power to your
advantage! EXPECT REJECTION, LOVE REJECTION, LEARN FROM
REJECTION AND YOU WILL SUCEED!
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